You know what kills me in this society? The fact that you HAVE to do stuff;
Examle #1 I hate arou7 a3azzi (pay respects to the dead). I am a sentimental person although I seem mtamsi7a but I really don't find death surprising nor dramatic.
-Faheema*: "hey, keefek? Did you hear inno khal Muna passed away?"
-Me:"ah jad? Alla yir7amo"
-Faheema: "Aren't going to go pay respects"?
-Me thinking 'I hate a3azzi and wear black, I hate it I hate it. Muna? Tab I rarely see her' ....."Sure, what time?"
Biddi afham, why do I have to a3azzi every single person on earth? If you come to think of it, an average Jordanian has consoled a larger number of people than the number of people he went out with. I honestly have attended funerals more than weddings. When you're having fun you don't invite me but when you're in pain I must be there? La2 sorry!
I know it's a sign of respect, I know these people are happy to see me and I know that it's a sign of sympathy and support. I know all of that I just hate doing it! Please no one out there tell me the benefits and advantages of consolation because I heard it all.
To me going to a place where people are mourning a death is not exactly my idea of support. The problem is that people keep a record; "laish arou7 a3azzi, ma aja 3azzani b abouy" !!! ehhhh aish? Aish fee? Aren't you supposed to be in trauma and mourning?
The thing about deaths is that it comes sudden, whatever you have those 3 days you should clear out your schedule and fit it in. Not practical.
-Dina*: "I'm heading towards the airport Sunday morning at 8:30"
-Me : "Oh cool so I'll see you Saturday night".
-Dina: "Or you can pass by Sunday at 8:00"
-Me: !! "OrI can pass by Saturday night! :) "
-Dina: "Sure whenever is suitable for you".
-Me: "Dina if I was in your situation, would you wake up to come see me at 8:00 AM?"
-Dina: "Of course I would"
-Me: "Why??!! Don't you think it's more practical to see me the night before? I mean if you got the 2 options wouldn't it just be easier on all humanity if you come the night before?"
-Dina: "Hmm maybe but I'd still wake up and come see you. I don't mind it I'm a morning person"
-Me: "Ok say you WERE NOT a morning person..."
-Dina: "Yeah, well, I'd still come at 8:00 AM"
-Me: "Ma a7qarni :(...... see you Sat night"